Your Friendly ADHD Agent
Yep, that’s me. Britt Chudleigh. My acronyms abound:
sab - eh hem, that’s super agent britt and a client actually gave me that nickname
NAR, UAR, & PCBOR member
CNE - certified negotiation expert
add - attention deficit disordered (this name is soooooo innacurate, incomplete and misleading…..and incidentally, what this post is all about)
IT IS I, MASTER OF DISTRACTED LAZER FOCUS, IMPERFECT PERFECTIONISM AND THE RELENTLESS PURSUIT OF THE OBVIOUSLY POSSIBLE IMPOSSIBLE.
AhHHHHH, ADHD, my trusty sidekick in the real estate world and in life. Some may view it as a quirk, but I have learned to think of it as my superpower, adding a dash of unpredictability and creativity to this PROCESS.
Picture this:
You, eagerly seeking your PROPERTY DREAMS, and me, your friendly neighborhood real estate agent, with the attention span of a caffeinated squirrel, ON YOUR SIDE. fear not, for my boundless energy and UNCONVENTIONAL METHODS HAVE A PRETTY BADASS TRACK RECORD. While others meticulously MISS THE FOREST THROUGH THE TREES, my ADHD-fueled brain is like FOREST SPOTTING HONING DEVICE, picking up on hidden OPPORTUNITIES, POTENTIAL ISSUES AND THAT OH SO SWEET WIN-WIN.
If you're in the hunt for a totally conventional real estate experience,
well, you might want to look elsewhere. SERIOUSLY. I’VE TRIED TO BE A SUPER PROFESSIONAL NORMAL PERSON AND IT’S JUST NOT IN THE CARDS. if, HOWEVER, you're READY TO LOOK AT YOUR GOALS AND THE PROCESS FROM VARIED PERSPECTIVES, SEE WINS WHERE OTHERS DON’T, AND ULTIMATELY GET WHERE YOU WANT TO GO, then buckle up and let's dive into this WILD RIDE together.
FOR BETTER OR WORSE (OBVIOUSLY 99% BETTER), MY BRAIN DOESN’T KNOW THE MEANING OF CONVENTIONAL, DULL, predictable OR FAILURE. I have learned that rules are meant to be broken, but you do need to learn them first (more on my adulting process another time). Sometimes, that good old traditional way is the path of least RESISTANCE and the best way to get what you want.
but what happens when the way it’s done isn’t getting it done?
I’m not really a “welp, that’s that” kinda person. THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER ANGLE, A WAY TO ENJOY THE PROCESS AND A HARD YES WHEN ALL THEY SAY IS NO. AS MY HUSBAND, KIDS AND DEFINITELY SOME CLOSE FRIENDS WILL ENTHUSIASTICALLY ATTEST, THERE IS SOME SERIOUS STUBBORNNESS BEHIND MY CROOKED TOOTHED SMILE. ONCE I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WANT AND TRUST THAT YOUR WHY SUPPORTS THOSE WANTS, I WANT THAT WIN FOR YOU AS IF IT WERE MY OWN. and if convention isn’t going to get you there, then that’s when the rulebook goes bye bye.
now, to be clear, i’m not in the business of forcing things. but when you know a life shift is right for you, you know it and i’m not going to watch myself or anyone else in my reach walk away from something that is right for them. there are so many things we all hide behind to convince ourselves that something isn’t right for us when things get difficult or push us beyond what we’ve been conditioned to believe about ourselves. I’m not magical so i can’t make anyone show up if they aren’t ready. but i will not give up on you or your dreams unless you basically fire me…….and that’s never happened. talk to me in another decade or so. ;)
my own personal path as a neurodivergent (i’m also dyslexic) kid trying to survive my education was a touch excruciating. but it also shaped me into someone i think is ok, someone who gets really excited about people choosing to lean into their best selves and lives. maybe that’s because for a while i gave up on myself. i leaned out. that period of my life was long, dark and difficult. the contrast of then to now is so stark and i’ll never forget my highs and my lows. i learned that it’s possible to gather yourself up and make a changes. makes change upon change upon change until one day you realize that you are happy, confidence and at peace in your life.
IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO UNDERSTAND THAT JUST BECAUSE I GOT SOMEWHERE DIFFERENTLY THAN THOSE AROUND ME DIDN’T MEAN THAT I WAS WRONG…….or that i couldn’t learn how to do it correctly. IT TOOK A HELLUVALOT OF PERSONAL WILL TO KEEP DOING IT WRONG, WRONG, WRONG, WRONG, UNTIL AT SOME POINT, IT BECAME RIGHT; OFTEN LONG AFTER THOSE WHO WERE DEFINING ME BY MY WRONGNESS HAD LOST INTEREST AND long since MADE UP THEIR MIND ABOUT ME.
FOR A LONG WHILE, I’D MADE UP MY MIND ABOUT ME TOO.
I SUPPOSE THAT STUBBORNNESS of mine ULTIMATELY SAVED THE DAY, DISALLOWING ME TO GIve UP ON MYSELF AND the THINGS I WANTED out of life JUST BECAUSE THEY WERE DIFFICULT OR I THOUGHT I WASN’T GOOD ENOUGH.. ONCE LEFT TO MY OWN DEVICES I began to remind MYSELF TIME AND TIME AGAIN THAT I COULD DO THIS OR THAT, MY OWN WAY. Maybe i had to work harder in some areas, but in others things felt effortless, if i paid attention and wasn’t entirely focused on what I was working against. eventually I BEGAN TO SEE HOW MY SPECIAL LITTLE big BRAIN COULD not only TAKE ME places I’d previously decided i was incapable but to my gorgeous surprise, PLACES OTHERS COULDN’T GO. WHAT A REVELATION. THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT FINDING A HIDDEN CANYON THAT MAKES YOU JUST WANT TO GET EVERYONE YOU CARE ABOUT THERE AS WELL to share it with you.
I WANT YOU IN MY BEAUTIFUL SECRET CANYON. BETTER YET, I WANT to help YOU TO FIND YOUR OWN.
so watch out. be warned. don’t say i didn’t tell you so. once i’m in it with you, i’m in it with you and the only thing preventing us from getting you what you want is you deciding you don’t want it anymore. And that happens. that’s valuable too. sometimes we have to charge straight at something before realizing it’s not the right something. that’s all part of the out-of-the-box process.